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My cheese is moving — again!

My boss recently announced she was moving on to another company.  I have one problem with that: I love working for my boss.  So naturally, I started catastrophizing in my head: “Oh no! I will never have another mentor in the work place!  How could she do this to me?!  My next boss will be terrible and I will welcome death over work!  I think everything is just perfect that way it is and nothing should change.”

But how realistic is that?

Have you ever read the book Who Moved My Cheese?: An Amazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in Your Life?  Dr. Spencer Johnson does a great job explaining the reality of change and what happens if change is resisted.  He simplifies it down to mice (and humans) looking for cheese in a maze – an example easy to understand, yet profound in its message.   

Read the Wiki synopsis – I’m sure you’ll see yourself in there somewhere…

Change Happens:  They Keep Moving The Cheese

Anticipate Change:  Get Ready For The Cheese To Move

Monitor Change:  Smell The Cheese Often So You Know When It Is Getting Old

Adapt To Change Quickly:  The Quicker You Let Go Of Old Cheese, The Sooner You Can Enjoy New Cheese

Change:  Move With The Cheese

Enjoy Change!  Savor The Adventure And Enjoy The Taste Of New Cheese!

Be Ready To Change Quickly And Enjoy It Again:  They Keep Moving The Cheese.

It’s true – change is scary.   But it’s going to happen, so give in and embrace it, and maybe even enjoy it.  Since my boss will inevitably go on to her next adventure, I might as well accept it.  Cause that’s life.

Growing Up Brave: description & reviews on Goodreads

 

With Growing Up Brave by Donna B. Pincus, I am excited to see a book focused on ways to recognize and help children struggling with anxiety. Anxious feelings and excessive worrying can become a habit – an automatic reaction to things. If parents, teachers and loved ones can help children manage this starting at a young age, it gives kids a chance to form healthier, more realistic outlooks on life, becoming happy, productive individuals.

Please see this book’s Goodreads page for a description and reviews from readers…

 

Prozac Nation, by Elizabeth Wurtzel – excerpt #5

 

“You don’t need an excuse to be depressed,” Dr. Sterling told me in one of our sessions. “You just are. You have to stop feeling guilty about it. Feeling guilty is just making you more depressed.” “This is going to sound dumb,” I began, far too aware that everything I said was so trite, “but, the thing is, I really don’t feel like I have a right to be so miserable. I know we can look back and say my father neglected me, my mother smothered me, I was perpetually in an environment that was incoherent to me, but – ” But what? What other excuses do you need? I wasn’t feeling gross enough to mention Bergen-Belsen, cancer, cystic fibrosis, and all the other real reasons to be sorrowful. “But a lot of people have hard childhoods,” I continued, “much harder than mine, and they grow up and get on with it.”

Please see excerpt #3 for my thoughts on depression and guilt…